I often wonder how I am going to raise my children with my wife. Sometimes it frightens me but many a times it brings me excitement and that desire to connect with my children and guide them throughout their life. While my parents parenting styles were not perfect they were perfect for who I am. Now that I am an adult I look back often with gratitude in my heart for how my parents raised me.
My parents like I said were not perfect but they always let me know how much they loved me. Now I could go on and on about each thing my parents did to parent me, but what I am going to boil it down to this: Loving unconditionally. As my parents did this it created a strong trust between both my mom and my dad. The other thing it created was mutual respect. My father would tell me often, "I love you unconditionally". He would always emphasize the unconditionally part. Because he did this I knew that whatever I did I knew he would love me regardless. This fueled me to want to be a good son for both my mom and dad.
In this day and age that is one thing I want to do for my kids. They will know that their father loves them, they will also know that I am their parent and that even if they do not like something it does not mean that I do not love them. Being a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints I heard some great council that I will have to raise my children differently than my parents raised me. I was also told that it is not impossible. Active parenting is the cure to having successful families. Successful does not mean flawless, it means its achieving its purpose in raising future families and members of society.
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